Here We Go Again

After your divorce you may want to enjoy the rest of your life without a partner. Maybe the stresses of your previous marriage were just too much for you to ever want to try again.

However, some people want to remarry someone brand new. Or maybe their ex-spouse?

When people remarry their ex-spouse, they go into their somewhat-new-marriage knowing why things went wrong and ways to make it better. However, there are some helpful tips for remarrying your ex.

1. Don't remarry for your kids. This will only get their hopes up and if you two don't work out, it will make the kids sad and angry that it didn't work out for a second time.
2. See a marriage counselor. Since your marriage didn't work the first time, it'd be a good idea to do this. It will allow you to learn from your past mistakes.
3. Keep things honest and open. Communication is the most important part of a healthy relationship, be it a high school relationship or marriage.

If you're more interested in remarrying a different person, try to remember that about 60% of remarriages fail. When you're trying to remarry, there are things that you need to understand on a very personal level.

1. Don't try to choose a better wife/husband. You yourself need to try and be a better partner. If your first spouse was serious and focused, don't try to look for someone who is the opposite. Those aren't the kinds of traits you should be changing.
2. You shouldn't bring your emotions from your first marriage into your second one. After your first divorce you will feel sad, angry, hurt, and a boat load of other emotions.  You have to move past these feelings in order to make the new marriage work.
3. Remember why things went sour. Although you should get over your past feelings of hurt and anger, you need to remember why things went sour so that you can keep things sweet with your new marriage.
4. Interact with your new spouse and your kids. If you have children from your past marriage, try to interact together with your new spouse. Kids will feel upset and angry about their parent's divorce, which would make them annoyed at their parents new spouse. It's a good idea to try and have the kids involved in activities between you and your new spouse.

Although remarrying can be hard, whether it's to your ex-spouse or a new one, you have to take into consideration all of these tips. If you want to have a new healthy relationship you need to have an open mind that this new one won't end up like the past one. Keep your head up high and think positive!

Stritof, Sheri, and Bob Stritof. About.com Marriage. N.p., n.d. Web. 20 Mar. 2011. http://marriage.about.com/cs/secondtimearound/a/secondtime.htm.

This website helps with talking about remarrying your ex-spouse. It gives tips and advice. The article authors are an old married couple.

Marano, Hara. Smart Marriages. N.p., n.d. Web. 20 Mar. 2011. http://www.smartmarriages.com/remarrying.html.

This website explains ways to go into a new marriage successfully. It gives tips also. It's from a psychological view.